You Are Still A Mother!

Every mom will be very happy to have her own new born baby in her hands from the very first second, I suppose. I said “suppose” because apparently there will always be mothers or mothers to be out there who plan to get rid of their new born baby as soon as possible with various reasons. One of the reasons I got is because having or nurturing a baby is such an enormous responsibility.

You can’t just say: 
--> “Alright, I’ve had enough of taking this tiny person in my womb for nine months. Now it’s your turn to take care of her from now on.”
Or
--> “I’m still feeling exhausted. Could you please take my baby away for couple of years then bring her back to me right after she can walk on her own feet.” 

Then, maybe that’s why some of those moms choose to give up and ask someone else to take their places as moms. Breastfeeding is also one of issues that mom should deal with after delivering her baby. And for me, breastfeeding is all about decision. It’s sad to see someone looks down on a mother just because she’s unable to breastfeed her baby.

--> “Why don’t you breastfeed your baby? That is really irresponsible!” 
--> “What?! You choose to give that synthetic milk for your baby? Ewww. What kind of mother are you?” 

I think it’s not fair. No one should ever judge a woman’s capability of becoming a mother based only on her capability of breastfeeding her baby. There are many reasons why moms unable to breastfeed their babies and turn into formula milk and I don’t see anything wrong with that. Formula milk is not poison! It was carefully formulated by the expert to support baby’s growth so that the ingredients will be as good as mom’s milk. Some said that mom becomes unable to make physical contact with her baby since she feed her with plastic bottle, which is not completely true. You still able to hug her in your arms while feed her with bottle. Anyway, feeding your baby is not the only physical contact you’re about to have when nurturing baby, right? My point is that you, moms out there have all the rights to choose whatever you want to do with your body. No one should ever judge you just because you’re different from the other side of group. You are still a mother with our without breastfeeding your baby. Just do whatever you think the best for your new born sugar. Happy nurturing!

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It's Going To Be Hectic Real Soon

I feel a bit confused and worry at the same time right now. My pregnancy is getting older and my due date is getting closer, about 3 months again. I've been reading a lot about contaminated formula milk in my country before especially formula milk for new born babies. It really makes me hesitated to feed my new born baby with formula milk. I plan to purely breastfeed him for at least 6 months before introducing formula milk as additional. And that's a huge plan!

Because I already have a 4 years daughter right now and she needs a different kind of attention right now. I never use a nanny service before because I can't simply imagine anyone else will ever take care of her as best as I could do. That's why I choose to resign from my previous job and become a stay at home mom. And I make it. I manage to raise my first daughter by myself until 4 years old. But by the coming of my second child everything would be different. I don't think I'll be able to breastfeed my newborn baby and at the same time nursing my 4 years old daughter all by myself. I can imagine that it would be very hectic for me. The only way out is to find more help and support.

I'm going to need a nanny eventually, no matter how hesitated I am about it. I've been trying to find a qualified and credible nanny for about 3 months now and end up with nothing. Meanwhile, my due date is getting closer. It makes me hold my breath just to imagine how hectic the situation with me in the next few years. Being a mother is never easy and it's going to be harder and harder. May God help me to take care His two amazing miracles in the future.